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I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! I WANT TO KISS A BOY!

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HELL YEAAAAAAAAAAA 💋

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yes!! I've been campaigning to bring back just a little bit of mess – nonchalance and polished interactions are OUT.

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I often think about that guy in that club in London who knew all the moves to Smooth Criminal. We executed the perfect choreography together (back when it was okay to still like MJ) and then we made out for like 45 mins. It was hot. I feel like this doesn't happen these days.

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obsessed with this

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OMGGGG

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emily does it again!!!!! long live the dfm- truly a staple part of being young & in lust!!!! plus the flashback to the middle school dance? beginning to believe we lived the same childhood 😂

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Thank you Meighan!!!!! nothing i love more than the universality of DFMs 🫂 thank you for reading!!!!

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Astute commentary. I feel the largest effect of the proliferation of cell phones and social media is the degeneration of interpersonal communication skills, which of course translates into very, very poor dating skills. Nice transition of ideas too, from the initial memory at the school dance to club dancing and then to dating.

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thank you!!!! this is so kind

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ok but what if he makes "whaaaaaaat's the best neighborhood in NY?" videos.......what then???

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this is the only acceptable red flag

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can’t express how much i needed to read this today ❤️‍🩹

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❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you for reading !!

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Apr 4Liked by emily north

I’m 36, and my early 20s were all dfms. Some truly terrible decisions happened — but so did some of my fondest memories of being young and slightly wild. I have long Covid now — and thus a lackluster immune system — and what I miss most is being tipsy in a packed bar with my friends. The energy of the crowd, our tipsy contagious laughing while trying each others’ drinks.

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!!! thank you for sharing cate, as someone in my mid-20s i feel that longing for something i still have but feel slipping away in the distance which pay have compelled me to write this in the first place.. really appreciate your insights! feel better xx

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Nobody can convince me there's anything more exciting in this world than a dfm with a boy whose name you don't know. Love!

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HELL YEA!! thank you for reading Liza <3 <3

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Love this (from a Londoner who feels similarly about the dating scene here! Maybe it’s a homogenised big city phenomenon?)!

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sadly i think it is!!!

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wait, why are u the modern day carrie bradshaw

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WAIT STOPPPPPPPPPPPP this made my day

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Apr 1Liked by emily north

Emily you don’t know how bad i needed this.

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!!! happy easterrrrr grace!

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Mar 30Liked by emily north

The Prada skirt is so good!

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SO GOOD! you should buy it ….. 😈

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Mar 30Liked by emily north

lol I did “heart” it but I’ve done so good with my “no-buy” march this far.. can’t mess it up now!

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ok stay strong i support you

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Apr 5Liked by emily north

brilliant you

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thank youuuuuuu Erika!!!!

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Apr 4Liked by emily north

I love any time you post. There is an intimacy and authenticity and enthusiasm I hope the internet (or real life) never squashes out of you! <3

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omg !!!!!! it never will!! thank you so much for saying that it made my day :’)

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Apr 3Liked by emily north

Are you an extrovert?

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extroverted introvert i would say! i need a lot of alone time hahahah

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extrovert is just someone who gains energy from someone else, so “extroverted introvert” sounds contradictory. but I understand what you mean

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totally- i am an outgoing introvert who really enjoys the company of others while still gaining majority of energy by being alone :)

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