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Justice for almond milk but i understand the hatred too

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team oat 😤

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Truly the best of the plant milks. (I am dropkicking soy milk under the bus.)

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I really loved reading this. I love to be a font of positivity on my substack—I’m here to remind you that the world is a beautiful place and life is a miraculous gift!!!!!!!!!!! But also like I’m a deeply emotional person and I do not always feel Good. Both things can be true. The joy I try to spread is not disingenuous just because I don’t always live fully in it. Figuring out how to love life even when things are shit is like learning literally anything else. You have to practice!!!!!!!

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i relate to this 110%!! biggggg on the practicing/trying to love life even though i feel like shit more often than not these days

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Eve, I love your approach to positivity!

It's refreshing to see someone acknowledge that joy and struggle can coexist. Life is indeed a miraculous gift, and practicing gratitude and positivity, even on tough days, makes a big difference. Your honesty about not always feeling good makes your positivity feel even more genuine. Keep spreading that joy and reminding us all to appreciate the beauty in the world!

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you don’t know how many times “we should hang out” was said in my past years, just to never see them again. sometimes i think it’s my own fault especially if they are the ones saying it and i just say “yeah!” when im deeply frightened of most human interaction because well, I’m anxious person + i love how truthful you can be, it’s such a vulnerable moment for you 🫶🏾

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nikki, I totally get what you mean. "We should hang out" can sometimes feel like just words. It’s easy to blame ourselves, especially when anxiety kicks in. It’s brave of you to share that vulnerability. It’s a reminder that many of us struggle with the same feelings.

Thanks for being so honest – it really helps others feel less alone in their own anxieties.

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Bye this whole list is so real I resonate so heavily . Shoutout the one guy at a random souvenir shop in Oxford when it was raining so bad 2 summers ago and I complained that the umbrellas were too expensive and he gave me one for free . I will never forget u <333

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I hate that every time I google anything that's bothering me - headaches, stomach issues, bad sleep, etc., the first answer is "drink more water" and I still can't drink more water for the life of me. So real.

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it’s one of my most embarrassing qualities

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I whispered “yes” to myself too many times on the subway while reading this

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i had to delete a few work ones lolllll

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oooh this list hit so hard and i love how writing all of it down made you feel better <3

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How tall are you? I’m 6’1 and people still say this to me way too often given that I’m fucking 40. I’m just like “CAN I LIVE”

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5’11 - I FEEL YOU

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I love this list - cause same!

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had a psychic tell me this exact thing about 6 months before I met my amazing husband, don’t worry 😉

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💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘💘

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REAL. I read this just before sitting down to write a journal entry, so now I think I'm gonna make my own little list for catharsis.

Looking for the bright side in things is healthy, I think, but shoving negativity under the rug and aggressively painting over the cracks is not. Toxic positivity is a lot to untangle and I appreciate your take. 🖤

(Also yes absolutely 100% fuck the wellness industrial complex. Snake-oil salesmen.)

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thank you holly 🤍🤍🤍🤍

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Damn these hit

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so real

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loved this!

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I completely stopped replying to people who just say "Hey! How are you?" On chat. The best part is when they totally forget to ask me whatever they wanted to ask. Works for me 🤷.

Love the hate list. It's good to let it out sometimes.

My personal thing I hate for no good reason:

People who put their sunglasses on the back of their head.

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Absolutely loathe birthday dinners at a restaurant, unless the birthday girl/boy is picking up the cheque. No, I don't want to spend $300 celebrating your birthday. We all have birthdays.

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