We should replace the question “tell me about yourself” with “what’s something weird about you?” Or “what’s a controversial opinion you have?”. Like, if you really wanna know me, ask me how I feel about lettuce. Or the color pink. Or the subway. Then you’ll know who I am 🤣
I haaaaaaaaate first dates, I can't stand telling someone that I lived in California, and then Boston, and then New York, and now I am in between places and no I don't have any siblings. And I also come off as disinterested bc truth be told I don't care how many siblings you have and what you studied in college and a lot of times men don't have much more going on in their lives than their job and drinking, and so........what is there to talk about then lol
RIGHT?! I started taking drawing classes to have something more personal and not generic to talk about (also I always wanted to draw) but then I meet men and I’m like PLEASE STOP GIVING ME A MASTERCLASS IN WHATEVER YOUR JOB IS IT’S SUNDAY!!!
love love love!! I really resonate with the dress how you want to portray yourself idea because so much of my personal dress is a range of styles that work well for different occasions but all signal a different purpose. sometimes i want to be the initially-intimidating but always comforting musician. after explaining to a friend how a uni job interview went she told me, “your fit is of upmost importance when being interviewed by fellow students,” and it’s so true! sometimes you really got to throw people for a loop, it’s good for character growth 💫
i used to be soooooo shy too!! I remember my sister and I would have secret beauty shows in our bedroom where we'd both dress up and rate each other's looks & give each other advice! Now we're grown up and still do that!
I've learned over the years that you can avoid a lot of extroverted social requirements (starting a conversation, thinking of small talk) if you have an incredible, eye-catching outfit. It makes people want to come up and talk to you either to gawk or give a compliment. The compliments are nice, sure, but the truth is I mostly like wearing something I'm obsessed with and having people instigate conversations for me. Something I've learned from being in nightlife is clubs are great places where people are *always turning looks so it's never not welcome to look extra as hell and usually can garner a conversation or two just by you walking around. As an added bonus, no one thinks you're shy if you're showing up in wild getups lmao
yes!! I do the exact same thing, and honestly find it rude when people don't wear at least one thing worth complimenting/inquiring about. I have trouble connecting over small talk - love to listen and let my outfits do the talking for me
i spent a lot of my life trying to disappear into my clothing, or trying to wear what other people wanted me to wear. moving out of my parents' house and going to college was the first time i felt liberated enough to dress how i actually wanted to dress, and THAT made me feel like it was easier to describe myself to other people. it's a lot easier to show than tell!!! it's so fun to dress in a way that reflects who you are, as opposed to who other people want you to be!!!
I love this, it really resonates with the experience of wanting to be individual with my style but also feeling worried about being seen/wearing the wrong thing and not fitting in!
I find the best answer to “tell me about yourself” to be “what do you want to know?”
We should replace the question “tell me about yourself” with “what’s something weird about you?” Or “what’s a controversial opinion you have?”. Like, if you really wanna know me, ask me how I feel about lettuce. Or the color pink. Or the subway. Then you’ll know who I am 🤣
I haaaaaaaaate first dates, I can't stand telling someone that I lived in California, and then Boston, and then New York, and now I am in between places and no I don't have any siblings. And I also come off as disinterested bc truth be told I don't care how many siblings you have and what you studied in college and a lot of times men don't have much more going on in their lives than their job and drinking, and so........what is there to talk about then lol
RIGHT?! I started taking drawing classes to have something more personal and not generic to talk about (also I always wanted to draw) but then I meet men and I’m like PLEASE STOP GIVING ME A MASTERCLASS IN WHATEVER YOUR JOB IS IT’S SUNDAY!!!
I’m calm. Breathing in. Breathing out.
love love love!! I really resonate with the dress how you want to portray yourself idea because so much of my personal dress is a range of styles that work well for different occasions but all signal a different purpose. sometimes i want to be the initially-intimidating but always comforting musician. after explaining to a friend how a uni job interview went she told me, “your fit is of upmost importance when being interviewed by fellow students,” and it’s so true! sometimes you really got to throw people for a loop, it’s good for character growth 💫
i used to be soooooo shy too!! I remember my sister and I would have secret beauty shows in our bedroom where we'd both dress up and rate each other's looks & give each other advice! Now we're grown up and still do that!
I've learned over the years that you can avoid a lot of extroverted social requirements (starting a conversation, thinking of small talk) if you have an incredible, eye-catching outfit. It makes people want to come up and talk to you either to gawk or give a compliment. The compliments are nice, sure, but the truth is I mostly like wearing something I'm obsessed with and having people instigate conversations for me. Something I've learned from being in nightlife is clubs are great places where people are *always turning looks so it's never not welcome to look extra as hell and usually can garner a conversation or two just by you walking around. As an added bonus, no one thinks you're shy if you're showing up in wild getups lmao
What a great piece and so wonderfully articulated
I agree
yes!! I do the exact same thing, and honestly find it rude when people don't wear at least one thing worth complimenting/inquiring about. I have trouble connecting over small talk - love to listen and let my outfits do the talking for me
i spent a lot of my life trying to disappear into my clothing, or trying to wear what other people wanted me to wear. moving out of my parents' house and going to college was the first time i felt liberated enough to dress how i actually wanted to dress, and THAT made me feel like it was easier to describe myself to other people. it's a lot easier to show than tell!!! it's so fun to dress in a way that reflects who you are, as opposed to who other people want you to be!!!
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love!!! feels like u looked inside my brain to write this
love da lace-up bodysuit+ skinny jeans + choker… mention btw
such an easy time.........!
this made me feel so seen! loved it xx
I love this, it really resonates with the experience of wanting to be individual with my style but also feeling worried about being seen/wearing the wrong thing and not fitting in!
Totally agree! Hate ”telling people about myself” but love deep-diving into outfit talk
i sooo relate to this omg
i love this so much.