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Ursa ⚧ ✧˖°.'s avatar

Reading the line about metrics in our resolutions made me think of this, from The Little Prince:

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Grown-ups like numbers. When you tell them about a new friend, they never ask questions about what really matters. They never ask: "What does his voice sound like?" "What games does he like best?" "Does he collect butterflies?" They ask: "How old is he?" "How many brothers does he have?" "How much does he weigh?" "How much money does his father make?" Only then do they think they know him.

If you tell grown-ups, "I saw a beautiful red brick house, with geraniums at the windows and doves on the roof," they won't be able to imagine such a house. You have to tell them, "I saw a house worth a hundred thousand francs." Then they exclaim, "What a pretty house!"

So if you tell them: "The proof the little prince's existence is that he was delightful, that he laughed, and that he wanted a sheep. When someone wants a sheep, that proves he exists," they shrug their shoulders and treat you like a child! But if you tell them, "The planet he came from is Asteroid B-612," then they'll be convinced, and they won't bother you with their questions. That's the way they are. You must not hold it against them. Children should be very understanding of grown-ups.

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Greta's avatar

as someone who is definitely stuck in the 1, 10,000, 8, 6 or bust mentality, this was a good reminder

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rish vee's avatar

beautiful stream of consciousness writing.. thank you for getting it out there! I resonate with much of what you said even though we had very different years, seemingly. I’m also sick of the metrics of resolutions and the before/after syndrome that comes with it but still struggle with finding a quantifiable way to see the difference between where I was last year vs now. Not sure if you’ve found a good way to bridge that gap?

In other news, my gf is /forcing/ me to make a ‘mood board’ and I think I’ll use it like an old train ticket, punching holes in the moods I’ve realized along the new year lol

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emily north's avatar

i think the best way to measure the passing of time and reflecting is honestly just journaling !!!!!!!! i always look back on my journals from the last year and it helps me gage so much

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Jenni Johnson's avatar

“not only are these resolutions deeply boring (to me), they inherently create a monotonous, prosaic life tethered by sameness” YES AMERICA IS STUCK IN THIS LOOP

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Lizzi Wyatt Hayes's avatar

This is good stuff

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Amy Ronhaar's avatar

“the sentiment of embracing the brutality of expansive emotions“ boom!

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alexandrauroras's avatar

loved!!! this newsletter omg

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Marisa Elise's avatar

Loved all of this. Your writing!! Your energy!! Feeling deeply called out for the 1, 10,000 , 8, 6 rule!

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Olivia Mannion's avatar

if only you would have joined 11:45 sculpt instead we could have kikied - alas!

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Angelina Hazzouri's avatar

favorite thing you've ever written............ YES

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emily north's avatar

:,)

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Anderson II's avatar

thank you for all the reminders of how life can feel

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jas 𝜗𝜚's avatar

love love love love love

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Meg's avatar

love this and trying to soak up this energy for 2025

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Elyssa's avatar

LOVE this!!! i’m SO for newness 🥂

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